All about our blended family – how we met, fell in love, married, and spend our days together.

Hey Jealousy, Where’s My Beachhouse?

Our friends just bought a beach house and I am so jealous I can't see straight.  I can't even talk about it without becoming instantly grouchy. It's petty and unbecoming and  true. Apparently, I desperately want a beach house. This is  surprising because until now, I've been vaguely anti-beach house.  I've ranted about maintenance hassles and [...]

By | 2017-06-13T15:48:21+00:00 December 6th, 2016|Blended Family Tips, Other Musings, Our Life Together, Our Story|

Practically Perfect: 10 Ways Yesterday Rocked

Things don't always go smoothly over here in six-kid land.  Rough-housing often takes a turn down Mortal Kombat avenue, idyllic afternoons spent in the great outdoors invariably end with rashes of unknown origin, and we are always out of the good snacks. Gabe and I set a low bar for success.  Generally, if everyone is [...]

By | 2017-02-22T13:38:23+00:00 December 2nd, 2016|Other Musings, Our Bunch, Our Life Together|

My So-Called Marriage: Love the Second Time Around

Sometimes my marriage to Gabe seems unreal.  Not in a gushy "I married Prince Charming, this is a dream come true" way, but in a "I'm not sure this counts as a real marriage" way. When we said I do, eight people were standing at the altar.  Eight people with lives in progress.  Eight people healing [...]

By | 2017-01-11T08:21:06+00:00 November 30th, 2016|Our Love Story, Our Story|

Why I Don’t Love My Stepchildren as My Own

When Gabe and I married, I understood I was committing to him and Sara, Amy and Jack for the rest of my life.  I had no idea what that actually meant. In hindsight, that's probably a good thing.  Knowing what I do now about parenting stepchildren, the complexities and nuances might have led me to put another [...]

By | 2017-06-13T15:49:21+00:00 November 23rd, 2016|Blended Family Tips, Coparenting, Our Bunch, Our Story, Stepparenting|

The Myth of the Part-Time Parent

When Billy and I were separating, I thought divorce meant giving up the children for half of the rest of their lives. I understand now that is a touch dramatic (and entirely wrong) but then, the thought paralyzed me. I nearly stayed in a marriage that no longer served us because I didn't want to [...]

By | 2017-08-17T10:30:46+00:00 November 21st, 2016|Coparenting, Divorce, Our Bunch, Routines and Organization|

Six Kids is A Lot of Work and Other Truths

Lots of talk on the internet about what's real lately. I'll tell you what's real. My house smells like feet. Not in an overpowering "let's look for what's causing that" way, no, in a much more subtle, pervasive way. It's upstairs, downstairs, in the garage. About midweek, I smelled it everywhere and worried I smelled [...]

By | 2016-12-15T15:23:38+00:00 November 18th, 2016|Our Bunch, Our Life Together, Our Story|

Why I Kept My First Husband’s Last Name

When Billy and I were in the midst of our divorce, I became obsessed with learning everything I could from the adult children of divorce that I knew.  That wasn’t very many, actually, and so my friends who fit that category were peppered with questions.  “What was your schedule? When did you hurt most?  Could [...]

By | 2016-12-15T15:39:23+00:00 November 11th, 2016|Blended Family Tips, Divorce, Our Love Story, Our Story|

The Shattering of Loss

I have been shattered before.  I remember this feeling. This aimless wandering around my house, not sure what to do next.  The holding my daughter close and smelling her hair and being at once comforted and afraid.  The explaining to my son that it is okay to actually feel something about this, that the pasted [...]

By | 2016-12-15T15:48:44+00:00 November 9th, 2016|Divorce, Our Story|

My Daughter was Bashful about Our Blended Family…Until This Happened

Lottie and I walk to the bus stop together every morning.  It's about a third of mile, and we spend the time admiring the the trees, spotting deer and chatting about the day ahead.  Topics are wide and free ranging, and because it's just the two of us and the dog, often include Lottie's worries [...]

By | 2017-04-24T09:12:14+00:00 November 3rd, 2016|Our Bunch, Our Life Together, Our Story|