Read all about how we met (nearly 20 years ago), spend time together as friends, reluctantly fell in love, and got married. Occasionally, we’ll tell you about our love story today – what’s changed, what’s stayed the same, and what’s gotten even better.

What Every Second Wife Needs to Hear

The most romantic statement Gabe ever made to me didn't happen on our wedding day.  He didn't declare it at the base of the Eiffel tower, or pen it in a greeting card.  The sentence caught me by surprise as we were out to dinner on a rare weeknight alone. It was around the holidays, a particularly tough [...]

By | 2017-06-13T15:44:11+00:00 March 7th, 2017|Blended Family Tips, Our Love Story, Our Story, Stepparenting|

How I Accidentally Found Love Again

It was my therapist who insisted on the online dating account. She said it wasn't healthy to never date again after divorce. I disagreed, but opened the account to show her that I was a healthy, balanced person who listened to professional advice. I never planned on actually dating anyone. My sister helped me with my [...]

By | 2017-06-06T09:06:26+00:00 February 14th, 2017|Our Life Together, Our Love Story, Our Story|

5 Ways We Keep Our Romance Alive

In the early days of our relationship, before we lived together and jointly managed 17 weekly loads of laundry, a rotten dog and a pantry that never has any good snacks, romance came easily. Gabe left slim volumes of Pablo Neruda's poetry on my bedside table and I wrote him long love letters. We met [...]

By | 2017-02-10T11:50:03+00:00 February 10th, 2017|Blended Family Tips, Our Life Together, Our Love Story, Our Story|

Love is a Battlefield: 5 Wars I’m Waging With My Husband

Gabe and I are in love. We snuggle sleepily in bed in the mornings, text sweet nothings to each other during the workday, and slow dance in our kitchen at night after the kids are in bed.  We think similarly and are on the same side of many of the issues that plague partnerships: how we [...]

By | 2017-01-12T23:17:18+00:00 January 13th, 2017|Other Musings, Our Love Story, Our Story|

That Time I Forgot I Love My Husband

I love Gabe more than I thought it was possible to love anyone, but sometimes I forget.  I get swept up in our day-to-day life, managing the comings and goings of our tribe and making sure they're fed a vegetable every third day or so, and I forget. I forget that I'm doing all this [...]

By | 2017-03-20T09:31:01+00:00 December 23rd, 2016|Blended Family Tips, Our Life Together, Our Love Story|

My So-Called Marriage: Love the Second Time Around

Sometimes my marriage to Gabe seems unreal.  Not in a gushy "I married Prince Charming, this is a dream come true" way, but in a "I'm not sure this counts as a real marriage" way. When we said I do, eight people were standing at the altar.  Eight people with lives in progress.  Eight people healing [...]

By | 2017-01-11T08:21:06+00:00 November 30th, 2016|Our Love Story, Our Story|

Why I Kept My First Husband’s Last Name

When Billy and I were in the midst of our divorce, I became obsessed with learning everything I could from the adult children of divorce that I knew.  That wasn’t very many, actually, and so my friends who fit that category were peppered with questions.  “What was your schedule? When did you hurt most?  Could [...]

By | 2016-12-15T15:39:23+00:00 November 11th, 2016|Blended Family Tips, Divorce, Our Love Story, Our Story|

On Loving Your Second Choice

I didn't plan to get divorced.  I  certainly didn't plan to end up a stepmother.  Let's face it, neither of those gigs come with a side of public adoration, or even a modicum of respect, frankly. I had planned to follow a traditional path - love, marriage, baby carriage.  I had planned to live my [...]

By | 2016-12-15T17:27:20+00:00 October 19th, 2016|Divorce, Our Love Story, Our Story|