The Back to School Tradition Our Kids Love

It's not often the children agree on something lately. From age 8 and 3/4 to 16, their interests range from Taylor Swift's latest single to the reproductive habits of protozoa to anything-that-doesn't-involve-my-parents; it can be hard to plan activities that everyone enjoys. Even still, we have one late summer family tradition that the kids clamor [...]

By | 2017-08-25T16:18:31+00:00 August 25th, 2017|Blended Family Tips, Holidays and Traditions, Our Life Together|

On Happiness and Grief and Babies in the Sand

It was well past midnight when my phone dinged urgently from the nightstand next to me. I debated not checking it: the kids were tucked safely in their beds upstairs and my work rarely requires an immediate response to client issues. I'm not a live organ transplant surgeon, after all. No message I get after [...]

By | 2017-08-24T09:58:23+00:00 August 23rd, 2017|Blended Family Tips, Coparenting, Divorce|

I Gave Up On Coparenting, Until I Realized This

I grew up believing that I could do and be anything I wanted. Not in a dessert-before-dinner-stay-up-past-midnight way, but in a you-control-your-destiny way. My parents raised the three of us grounded in the understanding that we could achieve any goal we worked toward. They actively encouraged our possibilities: like dissecting the frog in Biology? Perhaps [...]

By | 2017-08-18T10:33:51+00:00 August 18th, 2017|Coparenting, Divorce|

We Tossed Our Shared Custody Schedule Out. Here’s What Happened Next.

Our summer schedule was bananas. B-A-N-A-N-A-S, bananas. My children's father, Billy, took a three week trip to Europe. Our son Simon was away for six weeks working as a camp counselor. Our son Caden left home for the first time to attend a three-week Zoology sleep away camp in another state. We started the summer [...]

By | 2017-08-17T09:24:34+00:00 August 15th, 2017|Blended Family Tips, Coparenting, Divorce|

25 Things You Don’t Know About Me

My good friend and terrific stepmom blogger Jamie Scrimgeour shared her list earlier this week and I thought it was such fun to read I just had to make my own. If you don't know Jamie yet, please do yourself a favor and check out her blog. Her candid style and positive approach make her blog [...]

By | 2017-08-11T15:01:02+00:00 August 11th, 2017|Other Musings, Our Life Together|

How to Coparent After Betrayal and Heartbreak

Dear Kate, My husband of 11 years left me for a coworker while I was pregnant.   I have very traditional views in terms of family and divorce, so I've been reading and receiving professional help to try and get through this time. I've been told to let it go. I'm nervous that if I do [...]

By | 2017-08-17T09:26:29+00:00 August 8th, 2017|Ask Kate, Coparenting, Divorce|

What I Remember When I Have Nothing to Say

Some days I have nothing to say. Some days I am so far from my bliss, I can't see beyond the 257 mismatched socks piled and multiplying on the dryer. Some days I wonder what I was thinking when I said yes to all of this. I never imagined this complicated, swirling, noisy life. I [...]

By | 2017-08-04T11:48:38+00:00 August 4th, 2017|Coparenting, Divorce, Other Musings, Stepparenting|