How We Survive Summer With Six Kids (in 5 Easy Steps)

It's coming. The children are gleefully counting down the days and parents everywhere are white-knuckle bracing for the same. Summer is almost here. With six children in our busy household, summers are epic. Epic for the children in that they involve long lazy afternoons at the lake, firefly chasing in the evenings and endless dripping popsicles. Epic [...]

The Secrets I Keep and The Battle I’m Fighting

It happened again recently. A woman approached me after hearing me speak and said, "I know my situation is much worse than yours was, but..." She went on to describe a situation that closely mirrored one Gabe and I faced last year.  This well-intentioned woman assumed that because I hadn't addressed that specific issue in the [...]

Our Top Five Blended Family House Rules

When we first decided to marry, blending our two families of four into our tribe of eight, we read every book possible. Each of them recommended we establish house rules as a couple, sit down around a table for a family meeting to share the rules, and ride off happily into the sunset. We didn't do [...]

How My Father’s Blunder Reminded Me We’re All Beginners

There's a rumor about me swirling in our small town. It's not the first time, of course. As you can imagine, when people realized my second husband is a man I'd known while married to my first, tongues wagged. I was ready for it then, and was comfortable that the people who mattered knew the truth and [...]

By | 2017-06-13T15:42:32+00:00 May 19th, 2017|Coparenting, Divorce, Our Life Together, Stepparenting|

How Changing My Headline Changed My Life

I was furious. Billy and I had just had a particularly tense custody exchange and while we didn't talk much, he'd managed to push every single one of my buttons. Every look, every sideline glance, every loud "your mother..." spoken to the kids landed just as it was intended, and I lost my cool. I [...]

What it REALLY Means to Love Like a Mother

She stands in the kitchen looking at me. Her hair is stringy and needs to be brushed. She’s shifting from side to side uncomfortably, unsure of what I’m doing there or what to say. Her brother overdosed last night. Her mother is my good friend, and the swirling vortex of grief and community sucked me [...]

By | 2017-06-13T15:42:33+00:00 May 11th, 2017|Other Musings, Our Story, Stepparenting|

This Divorced Mom’s Biggest Mistake

For a minute, I didn't understand what she said. The words just hung in the air, jumbled and meaningless. "I want to stay at Daddy's. I don't want to be here tonight." I couldn't quite catch my breath. My six year-old daughter Lottie sat watching me absorb what she'd just said. A lone tear escaped the [...]

By | 2017-09-17T20:58:13+00:00 May 9th, 2017|Coparenting, Divorce, Our Bunch|

How I Survive The Stepfamily Spiral

I love our life. I love gathering noisily around our dinner table and piling on our couch shouting at the television and running around town together. This is where I am meant to be and I want to be present and enjoy each moment for the gift that it is. And yet... Sometimes all of this [...]

By | 2017-06-13T15:42:33+00:00 May 5th, 2017|Blended Family Tips, Our Life Together, Stepparenting|

How (and Where!) to Start The Search for Divorced Parent and Blended Family Resources

Like many of you, I struggled to find the support I needed as a divorced mom. The parenting websites and books I'd frequented before my separation seemed not to apply now that my home was "broken," and the shelves of books in bookstores seemed to focus on me as a survivor or victim rather than a parent. [...]

By | 2017-08-17T09:52:19+00:00 May 2nd, 2017|Blended Family Tips, Coparenting, Divorce, Stepparenting|